I've struggled with this one all my life. I always believed that I had to say 'yes' or there would be dire consequences.
Saying 'no' inevitably hurt someone (usually me).
But as I've got older, it's become easier and easier and this year I've managed more than ever before..
Wisdom has taught me that as long as one is prepared to take the consequences for one's actions, whether it's a 'yes' or a 'no', that's really all that matters.
'When in doubt, say no!
(I painted this with my one finger, on a yellow card. Quite effective.)
